This blog was created to honor the beautiful life of Darcy Balcomb, and to provide a forum for all of us to express our love, thoughts and prayers for her and her family.
We remember Darcy with love and joy, and with gratitude for touching our lives with vibrance, honesty, creative inspiration, and much laughter. Please freely post your memories of her, as well as notes of love and comfort to her family. If you send photos to enlightenedarts@sbcglobal.net, we can update the slideshow.
Love to all,
Friends of Darcy
Darcy, Steve, RJ, and Jenna
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Hi Everyone,
I don't know exactly how to get this thing started- something heartfelt, something funny? Darcy always loved my sense of humor and had a general mistrust (mostly deservedly so) of anything coming from me that was heartfelt, but I guess I'm not feeling too funny. Sara and I actually have laughed a few times since yesterday, thinking of funny stories involving Darcy, so I'm sure they'll come, and this will be a wonderful place to share them.
Darcy, we can't get our heads around the fact that you are gone, but in our hearts you will always remain.
Let the memories begin.
Love, Tommy Z on behalf of the whole Might Z Clan
Steve,
I am at a loss for words right now. Please know that I am thinking about you all and sending long distance hugs and love. I am looking forward to sharing some memories of the times that I spent with Darcy when the words are able to flow more easily. For now, just know that you have many people who care about you and are here for you.
Eva Allen
It has only been a few days since I saw you last, Darc, but I miss you as though you've been gone a lifetime. I want you back. I want to see you driving up in your big car and those big sunglasses with that panicked look because you are running late. What are we going to do without you? My life will so less joyful without you in it.
So many favorite stories. The cutest that the kids often talk about is the time Darc was in Jenna's classroom trying to quiet the kids for an art lesson she was beginning to teach. The "quiet sign" for this class was putting your arm up and making an "L" with your thumb and index finger. Well, Darc didn't quite know the right way to do it and put the "L" sign on her forhead. Of course, the kids do this when calling each other loser. She couldn't understand why all the kids were laughing and I'm sure Jenna was mortified. The kids, especially my Brooke, forever teased Darc whenever they saw her by making the loser sign to her. And Darc would just laugh..... I miss my loser.
We love you Darcy.
Sue, John, Ashley & Brooke
JUST LAUGHS
When I found out she had died I did not know what was going to happen. Everything that me and my mom talked about were all just laughs and good times. My loser. You have heard about the loser story from Sue. Well, its true. When she was still here that is always what me and my friend Brooke would call her. When we think about that I know it always cheers me up. We had good times together. I miss her so much.
I love you mom,
Jenna
Jenna, I thought that story from Sue was so funny, and I loved what you wrote! I can't imagine calling my mom a loser! It goes to show what a fun and special mom you had. That's one thing I always loved about her too- even when you were laughing AT her, you were laughing WITH her. She was neat that way. Keep remembering all the laughs and smiles. Love to you and the rest of the family.
Tommy
Family gatherings with the clan was never dull if Darcy was around. We always got going right away. We would laugh so hard at the thanksgiving table we couldn't breathe. She and I knew exactly what the other was thinking and we had a comedy routine from the very beginning. But that's how she was.
Darcy was practical, magical,and everything in-between. Riley, Jenna, Steve and the rest of us are so lucky that she touched our lives. She can't ever truly be gone. - Thinking about you guys- Jessica, Ethan, Kyle and Ryan
I can not believe this tragic loss that all of you have suffered. I so fondly remember the wonderful times and laughs in Italy. What a shopper she was. Steve, RJ and Jenna and the rest of the family have been so blessed to have had her in their lives. Her creativity seemed to know no bounds. I think anyone whoever met Darcy came away with a smile and a positive thought. She will be sorely missed but easily remembered forever. Take care of yourselves.
Karen McNay
My words are inadequate to express the shock, sadness and sympathy I feel for Darc's passing. She was us - our homegirl. A friend, a loving wife and a mother to two beautiful kids. She leaves indelible memories on those of us who grew up with her and I am sure on those who met her later in life. I will always associate Darcy with an important period in my life - an impressionable time full of excitement, hopes, dreams and friends.
Steve - We are all here for you. You know that. Anything, anytime.
I recall a photo. There we are. A pool party at Kim Corwin's. Darc and Balc - the first couple - Tommy, Mats, Leck, Eva, Hoov, Wrecker, Andy K, Valena Sue, Susie G., Whiteman, Rosa, Tako, Globey. It bespeaks the closeness we shared and influence we had on eachother and why, despite time and distance, we feel such a strong connection and sense of lose for Darcy.
I am greatful to have known Darc.
Ted
Writing this is surreal. Actually, I'd have to say unreal. Absolutely unimaginable.
Ted said it well, referring to Darc as "our homegirl." In the past few days, I've come to learn that Darc had built a beautiful life in her community, involved in the lives of many others beyond her immediate family. And that's how I remember her. Even when we were young, she was our Team Mom. Darc was the mediator between friends and lovers; patient, understanding, and perfectly honest. In all of the manic energy of that time, Darc was on cruise control. No surprises, and somehow a decade of wisdom beyond most of us.
And in the far too rare instances where we were able to connect later in life, she didn't skip a beat. Earlier this evening, I was reminding Kel how, when seeing Darc after a long hiatus, it always seemed as if I had seen her every day for the past year. So easy to talk to, connected to the conversation, and genuinely interested in whatever I happen to be blabbing about. And 100% genuine. I'll miss her for that, and countless other reasons.
Balc, whatever you need, The Lossons are there for you and your kids.
Darcy, I love you and I'll miss you.
Brad
I am so sorry for your family with the loss of you wife or mother. RJ and Jenna, school is going to be hard the first few days but I promise it will get better. RJ if there is a time at lunch or at chorus that you need someone to talk to, you can come to me. See you at school!
Alex La Scala
Thanks everyone for your support during this hard time. We will be returning to San Diego tomorrow and I'm guessing I will see many of you soon, but I swear we are all all right, me and jenna are fighting as usual and life is just going on normally, which is just the way mom would want. I think what would make my mom the most happy is that me and my dad and my sis are fine. We have gotten alot of help from people in Canada, who actually end their sentances with "eh." So I just want to thank all of you for being so supportive. And to all my production-classmates who somehow found out about this, I WILL be present at th disneyland trip. I know this is what she would want me to do.
RJ
I Googled your name. Ever since you told me you had become a doll artist, I’ve wanted to drive down to see your collection. But I never made the time. For the past two years, we’ve been in survival mode with the baby. I thought there would be time. I found one graphic on a site from a show that had honored one of your works. You’d named the doll “I Dreamt I Was A Fairy Princess On A Big Purple Throne.”
Each encounter with you rested in my memory with a simple happiness. You were so smart and gloriously self-deprecating. You would come up with hilarious, sarcastic observations, but you were always so kind. So kind and so honest. It’s such a rare gift to be able to be both.
After the reunion a few years ago, we started talking on the phone. You were so open and supportive of our long, grueling wait to adopt a baby. You shared your own story, you empathized, you gave of yourself. We talked about our passion for art and creating beautiful things out of nothing. I felt in you a kindred spirit. I loved your ready, honest laugh. You always seemed to really care.
You would have been justified to be completely vain. But you seemed even endearingly insecure. You loved your kids and Steve so much. You had one of those marriages where you could joke about really personal things, poking fun at each other, but in a loving, really funny way. I remember admiring that, and feeling inspired to bring that same sense of irreverence to my own marriage.
I am so sad that I will never see you again in this life. I didn’t have enough time to talk with you. I’ve not only lost the gift of a friend, I’ve lost the friend that might have been, because I know we would have drawn even closer over the years.
Darcy, you touched my heart so much that I feel you with us now, still. You are so happy, still, right now. I know you are, in spirit. My heart breaks for Steve and your kids. But I know they will be all right too. We will all be here for each other.
We love you Darcy. Thank you for being a part of our lives, now and forever.
Shelley
This blog is wonderful, the stories and priceless memories about Darcy and all of us who loved her. Thank you Jenna and RJ for your words, it really felt good to hear from you. Your mom would be proud of you but then again I know she was proud of you every day. I think of her as the Goddess of Embellishments. I see her arriving at Ellen’s with the car full of fabrics, fibers and endless art supplies. She would turn the garage or the guest house into a magical place for us all to create. She would be surrounded by her articulated mannequins and would make them come alive right before our eyes. The more stuff the better. Darcy could make an artist out of anyone and art out of anything. I’ll never forget her words about making art, “there are no mistakes, just step away, come back and try something different” and you know she was right. I will always hold her in my heart laughing, creating, loving your family, loving us, teaching us and taking whatever time she could to create, embellish and make something beautiful. Knowing Darcy was a beautiful gift in my life and I know her creative, loving spirit was so big that it will be with us all forever. I love you Darcy, Steve, RJ, Jenna, Ellen and Stan, and I always will. suzanne
To Darcy's Family and Friends:
I don't need this event to think of one Darcy memory. It pops into my brain a couple of times a week, and makes me think of so many different things.
It was the night before Karen and I were going to get married in Vermont. A bunch of us--steve, darcy, ted, scott, garry, john tyers--we're sitting around in someone's room. the talk had started around the nba playoffs...the bulls against someone, but then we'd turned the tv off to talk about "deep" stuff. Someone--probably that trouble starter Garry Frost, but maybe it was Ted, another trouble starter--brought up the fact that I was going to marry the next day a woman I'd broken up with more times than I'd like to admit. How did I expect it to work? The reaction from everyone was typical of all of us. Steve chuckled lightly and said, "oh...Hoover's here." Ted clapped his hands and said, "Yeah...let's get to it." Scott arched his eyebrows and began inspecting the room for whiskey glasses.
But those aspects of the situation I don't usually think about. Usually, I just think about Darcy's reaction, and Steve's reaction to Darcy. It was so funny and filled with this sort of calm affection--something that I noticed that night and my mind gripped onto without knowing why. And maybe I know now.
Anyway, what did Darcy say? She stood up...firmly, almost like a teacher, shaking her head in a disapproving way. And she said, "Talk about the Bulls." "Talk about the Bulls." If anyone tried to say anything, she'd cut them off with her hand. "No. Talk about the Bulls." We were all looking around at each other, trying to figure out what was going on. Then we got it--she wanted us to talk about basketball, sports, stuff guys usually talk about--anything except for the potentially explosive question Garry raised. She was so cute. Steve sort of shifted his weight back to look at her directly. Then he just laughed lightly, shaking his head and said, "Darcy."
The thing I think about now was that she was really worried about me. She didn't want my wedding disrupted. And she took on all these men--these old buddies--and wouldn't step down. And Steve's reaction was so accepting. Maybe it's hindsight, but I think I drew comfort in their chemistry. They'd been together longer than any other couple. If Karen and I could get to the place the Balcombs were that night--a place of calm, humor and affection--it was worth the gamble and the odds of failure.
Thanks, Darcy.
Steve, RJ, and Jenna and the rest of the family and friends...Karen and I are thinking of you.
Kalle
If Darcy can love a rag-tag group of guys like Steve and his friends for 20+ years, it goes miles saying what kind of person she was. As Brad and Ted said, she often had to play mediator between our group of guys (whether it was me and Ted, Ted and Gary, Gary and Tom, Brad and Tom, me and Gary, or the infamous beach dog piles on Zoerner) and she was always more than happy and willing to do so because she loved everyone so much. We are all so much better for knowing her, even if it was too brief.
Steve - Petra and I continue to pray for you guys to stay strong! We're all here for you...
Dave Binney
Hey Steve,
Just want you to know that Shelley and I are thinking good thoughts about you and your family, and hoping that you are feeling the love that all of us scattered around the country are sending you way these days. Darcy left us way too early, and when I think about that it’s easy to feel sad, regretful, even old. But since we first got the news a few days ago, I find that mostly I’m thinking good things, enjoying some good old memories of Darcy and you. Darcy was so great, so smart, beautiful, funny, tough, weird (in a good way), confident, mellow. It has been such a gift knowing her. It’s hard to imaging Darcy gone, but for those of us lucky enough to throw an arm around you every now and then, to watch your children grow up, to enjoy these sweet memories, she’s not gone at all, and she never will be.
Garrison
Steve, RJ & Jenna,
It still feels like a dream. Your family has been on my mind constantly since I heard the news.
And there are no words that can can describe what is taking place.
Darcy was a very STRONG woman and mom. A go getter!!
We have had the pleasure of knowing her for the last 5 years when RJ was first in the CHPz class as a second grader. We were reunited last year as Andrea (our daughter)& RJ are attending the Academy at Black Mountain. We have been carpooling for eachother the last year and a half. I could ALWAYS count on Darcy! And it was never a problem if we had a last minute change.
Darcy always had a smile:)And yes, those BIG sunglasses! She actually looked good in those!
I will miss her terribly.
Steve, we have RJ covered. He can get a ride to school with our morning carpooler (Cami Martini) and I will still bring him home.
If there is anything else we can do please let me know.
Christina Emery
(Keith, Andrea & Brian)
Let me start off by saying that I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I did not know your family personally, but my daughter, Kayla Martini goes to school with RJ. We are deeply saddened when we try to imagine what you are all going through right now. I have mentioned to Christina Emery (as she posted here) that I would love to help out by driving RJ to school in the mornings. I live on Fernando Dr., very close to the Emerys'(and you I have heard). Just let Christina know if you need that. Again, your family is in our thoughts and prayers.
Camie Martini
I am deeply sorry for what has happened to your family, and I wish I would have gotten to meet your mom she sounded like she was great. If you need anything or just a friend to talk to I am here for you. I know you guys are going through alot and just hang in there.
kayla martini
RJ you are so brave and I am so proud to know you. You are the coolest kid I know. Keep hanging on and just know that everyone is here for you.
Olivia Armitage
As I look around the rooms in my home, I have some wonderful reminders of Darcy. Several times when Darcy, Steve, and the children were visiting Steve's family in Cambria, Darcy offered to teach doll classes. I was so fortunate to have spent several days in Ellen's garage, creating my beautiful mermaids, my travel doll, and my spirit doll. Darcy shared so much with all of us and gave us the opportunity to find our own creative spirits. Darcy gave me the courage and inspiration to express myself in a new way. I was deeply saddened to learn of her loss. Steve, RJ, and Jenna, my thoughts and love are with you. I hope to see you in Cambria some time soon.
Love, Judy Mandler
Dear Steve,
So hard to speak the unspeakable much less even think it. You guys were such an inspiration to all your buddies. My first memory of Darcy was when I came to visit David at Boulder shortly after you Don and David had begun your first year. I was so struck by how young you were to be so profoundly clear, even then, that Darcy was your true love. I think you left within a few days to return to her. Some people live a lifetime together and never get that kind of clarity. It is a gift to love like that.
Then, of course,there was the wedding. first. I always thought you guys set the standard. Her smile lit up the room as she floated down the aisle into your arms. She looked like she invented the word bride.
But my own personal time with her was to folllow a few years later. I got into the habit of having her tend to facials and make up and girl stuff at the salon in Herosa. I found myself driving all the way from Malibu mainly for my Darcy fix. We gossiped and laughed ad shared stories and sometimes secrets. I, for sure, didn't need the facial -- I simply needed a dose of her adorable, sweet, funny -- very genuine spirit. That same spirit that lives on inside your children. She was a very beautiful, loving young woman who obviously left this world far too early -- but left it way better for being in it. There is so much love directed to you guys out of Manhattan Beach today that I hope, for a moment, you feel lots of arms around you.
Love,
Patti
hey R.j and family,
I couldn't belivie this in my mind that this story was true.
mom and wife's loss and i want you guys to know that we will all help you pull through.
r.j,
we are all so happy to know that you will be joining us in disneyland.we loook forward to seeing you sunday night and at disneyand.we should all hang at disneyland.
jenna,
i know you dont know me but,
you should know that people care and that we will help you pull through.i hope we meet soon.
steve,
all i can say is that you have to stay strong.
stay strong,
Jordy Perry
Steve, Jenna and RJ,
I just want you to know that I am thinking about you as you return home to San Diego today. It has been so moving to read through this blog and see what an profound impact Darcy had on so many people.
She was a sparkly star, a bright shiny penny.....a sensitive soul who truly understood compassion and empathy, laughter and love. A role model for us all.
My thoughts are with you.
Love,
Eva
Where to start – Like you all, I have so many memories of Darc that come spilling out. They are like forming a collection, a mosaic of sorts. Darcy was certainly full of vision and could spin twine and fabric into a work that could spellbind.
Through my thoughts I have come to realize all of those pieces, those glimpses of fantasy, and the others so refined, were all just Darcy. Darcy was the work of art. All of the little pieces simply making up a collection, a mosaic that was Darcy. Some pieces were full of what appeared manic, others solidly in step with the heavens.
The fondest memories, and the ones that will last me a lifetime, are those of when we would simply sit and have our little chats. We would steal away from the gathering that was going on or the event others were so engaged in, to find our little place to share and enjoy each other’s thoughts, to laugh, to cry, to vent. Those are the most precious memories for me.
I know that so many people share fond and joyful memories and know that Darc will live on in all of us. Those memories will manifest as a caring, and thoughtfulness of others.
We are so very sorry for your loss and so torn that such a perfect union has been separated, at least for the time here on earth. We are here for you Steve, Jenna and RJ.
We know that you will hear that a lot over the coming weeks and months but please understand as those offers of help and support seem to dwindle we are still here for you. We also understand that at this very moment you may not know what you need or how we can help. Please remember our offer as those things come up no matter how little or huge they seem to be.
We love and miss you Darc!!!!
Cindy, Tracy, Madi & Dylan Francis
Darc
Your energy, smile and love will live through your family. You've passed that on to them and they will carry it for you. You always brought so much energy with you wherever you were. We'll miss that.
Steve, Jenna and RJ
I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words that are enough or right. I know that Darcy will watch over you and that you'll feel her love and energy with you whereever you go. She was special, but so are all of you and you will always carry her with you.
We love you all and will be there however you need it. Don't hesitate to ask for whatever you need.
Tammy Trust
Darcy had a gift of making you feel like a day did not pass between visits. I always felt comfortable around her. Time could slide by and when we did get together it was always easy and friendly and warm. We have an amazing patchwork of friends and families around us and it feels like there's a hole in our favorite quilt now.
Brad's right, Darc had a decade of wisdom beyond most of us. Never afraid to be the FIRST to dive in and take on life's responsibilities with such ease.
One favorite memory of Darc was in college . She came out to visit Steve, Don and myself in Boulder...alright, maybe just Steve...Don and I just happened to be there. I was excited to have a friend come out so we could all share this college experience in the Rockies with her. Well that didn't happen. Don and I were promptly locked out of our dorm room for the duration of her stay. ALL WEEKEND. When Steve and Darc did emerge from their cocoon I remember those blissful smiles on their faces and those sparkles in Darc's eyes were probably that of RJ and Jenna....could've lit up a room. Then she flew away and then Steve flew after her.
Balc, whatever you need. Know that you've got an old friend here.
Birz
Time goes so fast. Wasn't it just yesterday that we were enjoying wine in San Francisco together? Weren't you just telling me about your dolls and your kids and the blessed life you had in SD? Darcy, you were always smiling, always sweet and always lovely beyond belief.
I remember your wedding day:a complete rain storm just as you were to walk down the aisle...you were smiling and laughing as they moved the ceremony inside. You could care less about the rain; you had the love of your life to marry. I remember you dancing to Natalie Cole's "Unforgettable". How is it that I just remembered that-- after all this time?! Maybe because that is a word that comes to mind when I think of you. You truly are unforgettable---in absolutely every way.
The last time we were together was for Lars' 40th. You looked beautiful, breathtaking. You were happy to be visiting SF and grateful to have a weekend away with Steve. I wish I had taken more time to talk to you that night. I wish we had more time with that smile and those sparkly eyes...I know that we all wish that.
Time goes so fast.
Steve, you are in our thoughts and prayers, now and in the coming days, weeks, always.
All our love to you and your kids
Paula and Lars
RJ & Jenna,
You two always made me smile in the car driving home from school with your mom. We had great times while RJ was in the front blasting his music while Jenna and I were texting in the back because we could hear eachother talking. But the best part was how your mom and I would go on and on about shoes or whats 'hot' and 'not' these days. She would always ask my opinion if she was giving something to a niece to see if I would like or wear something like it. It was so much fun. And of course I will always remember your moms face when RJ would ask for a muffin.. everyday. (: I will definately miss her. I hope all is getting better with everyone.
Love you all,
Andrea Emery♥
Darcy was not our daughter-in-law, she was our daughter (thank you, Cindy, for sharing her with us all these years). She brought love and joy into our lives. I could count on her to have a totally different twist on things, to always be her unique self and wise beyond her years. She was funny, frank, creative, nonjudgmental, caring, supportive, totally unorganized, usually late, very last minute and not at all bothered by what others thought. Her focus was her family and we were blessed to be part of that. I loved traveling with Darcy because she wanted to see everything, try everything and be everywhere. It was always an adventure to remember.
She loved to come up here away from her "have to's" and create beautiful dolls. She'd bring so much stuff which annoyed Steve to no end. We'd just hang out together and I'd feel inspired by her no fear approach to her art. It was such a gift to me and I'll miss it horribly.
Steve called to say there had been a horrible accident, could we come as soon as possible. I hung up the phone and thought how life can change in a second. In a second! We thank you for the wonderful years we shared, the love you gave to all of us and our beautiful grandchildren. We'll love you forever, Ellen and Stan
I so appreciate the shared wisdom expressed in this blog. I was taken aback when I heard the frightful news about Darcy. I'd taken a doll making class with her and seen her visiting in Cambria. What everyone says is so true. Darcy was such a creative, vital, joyous, one-of-a-kind individual. I witnessed how engaged she was with Riley and Jenna, constantly encouraging their imagination and creativity. She brought such joy to her grandparents, Ellen and Stan. Darcy created dolls so full of life, vitality, whimsy and wisdom. She danced into our lives, as her dolls danced. Now she has danced into another life and left her magical dust sprinkled on each of us. We can pay tribute to Darcy by breathing in her inspiration and exhaling from our own center. I'm sad for Steve, RJ and Jenna that
Darcy twirled away so soon and left us out-of-step. She left us memories and created messages on her dolls for us -- "Love" "Give" "Dance". We hear you, Darcy. Thanks.
Kathleen
The world will not be the same without Darcy! She will be missed every day.
Countless hours I spent with Darcy scrapbooking at Susie's watching in amazement how each of her pages always came out like individual masterpieces.
I am grateful to have known Darcy. The scrapbooking, PTA Reflections, fun parties that we went too etc... but it was the art program at Chaparral that stands out the most.
I was fortunate enough to introduce Art Corps to Chaparral and blessed to teach it in my daughters class for the first year along side Darcy... she was so good!! Chaparral has proudly conducted the Art Corps program now for 8 years and Darcy for all of those 8 years gave her time, talent, enthusiasm and most importantly her love to the program. For the last couple of years I was able to finally talk Darcy into producing the big year end Art Show... what a show she produced, calling it the "Art Corps Art-rageous Art Show" Darcy put her personality into the show and that's why it was so "Art-rageously" perfect. Darcy and I were in the middle of working on this year's show, it will not be the same without her... the show will go on, using all of Darcy's ideas. We will think of her as we set-up this year, we will miss her. This year's show will be in her name and in her memory!
Linda
You all don’t know me, but I am a friend of Debbie Grudzeins who is a friend of Dave Packers. When I became aware of this tragedy I couldn’t help but to reach out to Darcy's family and let you know that you have a lot of folks praying for you in places that you were not even aware of. We cannot even begin to feel your pain. But know that people everywhere are praying for your peace and comfort. My heart goes out to you all.
Sincerely,
Gail Hubble
Anchorage Alaska
TO STEVE, RJ AND JENA, THESE WORDS OF SYMPATHY ARE COMING FROM FLORIDA IN HOPE THAT YOU WILL FIND SOME COMFORT IN KNOWING WE LOVE YOU AND CARE VERY MUCH ABOUT YOU. I MET HERBERT AND HORTENSIA WHEN I STARTED DATING MY HUSBAND AND THEY CAME TO LIVE IN TAMPA.(ABOUT 1953) WE WERE MARRIED NEARLY 50 YEARS WHEN HE PASSED AWAY. I SAW CYNTHIA AND DEBI GROW UP AND DARCY SPENT TIME HERE IN TAMPA WITH HER GRANDPARENTS. SHE WAS ALWAYS A LOVELY CHILD, VERY OUTGOING, ALWAYS HAD A SMILE FOR EVERYONE AND THOSE ALMEIDA EYES. I KNOW SHE WILL BE MISSED. KEEP HER WONDERFUL MEMORY ALIVE, ESPECIALLY FOR HER CHILDREN. WISH I COULD GIVE EACH ONE OF YOU A BIG HUG. MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. LOVE, DIANA ALMEIDA
Darcy,
Thank you for always sharing your spirit. It continues to pull people together and helps each of us focus on the wondrous parts of life. You did that for everyone you met. You created a magic moment. It didn't matter if you met them once in a lifetime, once a year or once a day. Each meeting was full of wisdom and joy.
That generosity is alive in your children and your spirit will continue to dance among the stars.
Peace and Light
Heather
Jenna-Jenna
I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. My son, Mitchell has looked up to you and has welcomed the help you gave him in Mrs. N's 1st and 2nd grade class. I didn't know your Mom as well as I would have liked, but I do remember when we passed each other we would always say 'Hi Jenna's Mom' or she would say 'Hi Mitchell's Mom'. I think RJ said it the best...Normalcy is the best medicine. Your Mom would have wanted it that way.
Please know we are here for you and your Dad and brother.
See you at school!
Mrs. Begg
Alex, Lisa and Mitchell Begg
Dear Steve and family,
I want to express my heartfelt thoughts and prayers to you during this difficult time. I have many fond memories of Darcy starting from elementary school on up through adulthood. She was a beautiful woman who was always much more mature and ahead of the rest of us. May you find peace in her memory.
Love,
Scotti Wells
She called everybody "babe."
That's what I'll always remember about Darcy. I never thought much about it, but in looking back, and in reading all the submissions on this blog from the folks whose lives she touched the most, I just keep coming back to this word- "babe." It kind of encapsulates Darcy and her view on the world. We were all her "babes," and she was here to guide us, to teach us and encourage us.
When Sara and I first got married, I remember we were so young, so naive and often so scared. Well, by that time, Darcy was an old pro, and I remember how she kind of took Sara under her wing. She was so reassuring, and somehow she convinced us how easy this whole thing was going to be. She always made it look easy, and there was great comfort in that.
When Mason was born, again, it was a beautiful but frightening time- and there was Darcy, the old pro, there to offer advise and encouragement.
Hell, she even taught me to waterski. I'll never forget, after countless spills and Canyon Lake enemas, I still couldn't get to my feet. Darcy leaned over to me and said "keep your knees together. You can do it, babe." Well I could, and I did.
I don't know about this whole concept of people being in your lives for a reason, or a season, or whatever, but I do know this- Darcy was there for us when we needed her most. What possibly more could you ask from a person?
Darcy was put on this earth to teach, of that there can be no doubt. I can't help but think that Darcy was like this traveling set of training wheels, there to support, encourage and teach whomever needed her most.
Darcy, I miss you so much, but even more, I hate the idea of you not being there. I thank you for everything you have meant to our lives, and I thank you for the words that I and countless others will always carry-
"You can do it babe."
Love,
Tommy Z
Dear Cindy,
I wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts. I am so,so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine anything more painful. I mostly knew Darcy as a little girl: a beautiful, happy and loving little girl. After reading through comments and seeing the pictures, I'm happy to know that she was also a happy, beautiful, loving and loved adult.
Please express my sympathies to Steve, RJ, and Jenna.
Take care,
Your Cousin Denise Scussel
Mill Valley, CA
Hi Jenna,
I am so sorry that your mom passed away. She was so special to us all in artcorps. When I didn't know what to do she always helped me. I feel so sorry for your mom. You must feel very sad, I do too.
Your friend,
Gregor
greetings from me lauren t., we all miss you darcy and wish you were still here but you're still here in our hearts!
love,lauren t.
Hey RJ,
I wish you the best of luck. I hope you realize that your mom will always be with you. You are really cool RJ. I know that it is really tough to havea loss like that but knowing you, you will be strong. Your poems haveinspired me so much!!! I remember in sixth grade, I would keep bugging you to let me read your poems and I ABSOLUTLY LOVED THEM!!! You have a talent solet it shine:)
Jenna,
I know you dont know me but i wish you the best:) i know it is a hard time but you should just stay strong!!!
Much love and best of luck,
Holli Keaton
Steve,
My heart goes out to you and your family. You have many people to support you, please include me in that group as well.
I wanted to share with you that when I think of Darcy, I see her always smiling her big, beautiful, smile.
Again, my thoughts are with you,
Devra (Adler) Hunt
Hi, I'm in RJ's class and I would like to that I'm sorry that RJ's mom died and that I have a whole new view of life, for I have had many recent fights with my parents. This just shows me that events like this could happen to my family. I hope that RJ and his famiill recover from this event and live life to it's fullest! :)
Love is life
Love is your soul,
your name, your life,
Love is everything,yet it is invisible,
Love can be broken, yet it will rebuild,
Love can be concealed,
in a valentine, or in a kiss,
yet love is life, and all life will live for love.
--
Andy Eang 7th Grade.
Steve, RJ and Jenna,
I was reading through some poems that I've collected through the years, and this one literally fell out of the stack. I took it as a sign & I wanted to share it. I think that Darcy would approve.
Death Is Nothing At All
by Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)
Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away into the next room,
I am I and you are you,
Whatever we were to each other, that we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used,
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow,
Laugh as we always laughed,
At the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect,
Without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant,
It is the same that it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind,
Because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval,
Somewhere very near,
Just around the corner, all is well.
Thinking of you & sending love from OH,
Eva
Jenna, remember how thotful your mom was and how she always came in and helped out with Art Corps and lots of other amazing things.... ALOT. I had lots of laughs with her doing art last year. ALSO, i am here to help you get through this.
-Jackson K
To Our Family and Friends, both old and new:
I simply can't thank all of you enough. The love and support that the kids and I have received over the last ten days have not only been comforting, it has been awe inspiring. Darcy would have appreciated all of the help and wishes we've received, but then she would have known it was coming. What she wouldn't have foreseen is the way she apparently touched people. Out of this tragedy I'm reminded not only what a friend she was to me, but what wonderful friends she/we have.
We are targeting either March 8th or 15th for a memorial service for Darcy. Actually, it will be more of a celebration as Darcy was never one to mourn. She preferred to celebrate. So don't expect churches and priests who don't know us, but rather stories and memories from her friends and family. Don't expect dark suites, but rather aloha shirts and flip flops. You get the picture. More details to come.
All things considered, the kids and I are doing fine . We have a lot of support from family members. Thanks to many of you, we're well fed. One of the first things the kids said to me when we got to the hotel room in little Squamish, British Columbia the night of the accident was that Mom would be happy that the three of us were ok and that she wouldn't want us to be sad all the time. I promised them I would do my best to make sure that didn't happen. Thank you for helping me keep that promise.
Steve
P.S. And thank you for all the wonderful notes on the blogsite. The kids, my family and I are all taking it in and it is wonderful. Keep it up. Thanks to Eva for recommending the idea.
Dearest Darcy,
If I could see you again, I would tell you how much I love you and that I've missed you so much, and how beautiful and precious you have been to me, and how much you have always meant to me.
If I could see you again, I would tell you how proud I am of you, the woman you have become, the mother I new you would always be and the love and blessings you gave so free.
If I could see you again, I would want to stay up all night and talk about you and your beautiful children RJ and Jenna.
If I could see you again I would tell you how much I Love you and always will. Titi
Dear Steve RJ and Jenna,
We are deeply sadden for your loss. You are in our thoughts constantly. We pray for peace and comfort that surpasses all understanding.
Please know we will help in anyway way we can.
With all our Love and affection,
Debbie, Mike, David and Daniel
Dear Cynthia,
Please know that I love you and care about you. And, that I will always be by your side if you need me. Darcy was your wonderful daughter and your best friend. The closeness and love you shared can never be duplicated. Your love will go on with RJ and Jenna.
May you find peace and comfort in that.
Please give my love to Jack.
With Love and blessings,
Your Sister Debbie
dear Jenna and family,
Jenna, I will alway's comfort you whenever you need it.I also enjoyed your mom's laughter.Just remember that her spirit is always alive and and in all of you guys' heart.
She helped our reflection's program and was a great art teacher.When I heard that she made dolls and I came to your house I was amazed!I loved her artistic way of doing things.When I heard your mom pass away I was so sad.I started crying so much. All of you guys were so brave.I love all of you guys and I believe in you!!!
With all my love and
blessings,Julia P.
Dear Jenna,
I wanted to send you a note to let you know that I am thinking of you. I am so sorry to hear about your mommy. I thought your mom was so special and very funny and I am sad to hear that she is not here anymore. Even though this is a tough time for you and your family, I will always be here for you as a friend. We have been friends since preschool and this is the first year we have not been in school together. When we saw each other at the hotel after the fires, it was like old times. We had a lot of fun with our sleepover back in October.
I think about you everyday and miss you a lot. I still have the note you gave me in the hotel. We will always be friends!
Love,
Sarah Rose Z.
RJ, I have no words to express my empathy for you, and I hope you know I have you in my thoughts. Stay strong.
Balcombs and Friends,
I met Darcy in Junior High a.k.a. Middle School. I was probably close to RJ's age. I remember that she loved to laugh, that she liked music (we used to argue over which was the best song on Billy Joel's "Glass Houses"), and that once you were her friend... you were her friend.
While I was trying to figure out who I was, who I wanted to be, and who I wanted everybody else to think I was, Darcy was just accepting. Even then, she was so comfortable in her own skin. She had an air about her that said,"Just be yourself, that is who I like". It was such a powerful sentiment.
Fast-forward to High School, and, it is funny, but that is how I remember Steve. We became friends, and while I was still trying so hard to "figure it all out", Steve, so comfortable with who he was, would just snort and shoot me a look that said, "Dude, relax".... a great guy, a great friend.
I am so glad that they figured it out so much earlier than the rest of us and that they found each other.
I am so glad that I knew Darcy. I am so glad that I know Steve. I am sentimental, and I am sad.
Balcombs, we are thinking of you all.
Love,
Scott White and the White Family (Laura, Charlie, Alice, and John)
To Steve, RJ and Jenna,
Helene and I would like to extend our thoughts to you and your family. David shared the news with us and on behalf of our entire family, we wanted to let you know that we're thinking of you in our thoughts and prayers.
You asked about memories of Darcy. I'm not sure if you remember, Steve, but you included me in your wedding celebration...which was one of the coolest things of all time. I think you and Darcy asked me to "represent the Golob's," since David was off in Japan, I think. I hadn't had much experience attending weddings and I remember when the ceremony started, seeing Darcy look at you as she was coming down the aisle and I thought to myself, "Wow, to see that devotion and love in her expression to you - which was obvious to everyone who was participating in your celebration - that's true love...and Steve's a very lucky guy."
We are all fortunate to have shared so many experiences with Darcy and we are here for you - whatever you need - during this time and always.
-John and Helene Golob, David, Anne, Mrs. Golob, all of us
Marsha and I were so incredibly sad when we heard the news. I am sure Darcy would understand how we all grieve but I am also sure that she would want us to focus on the good memories. I'll always remember her as the adorable little girl that I got to watch grow up for a while and then much later as a beautiful woman with a wonderful family who allowed us in to their lives and left us with such loving, lasting memories. We will all miss her so much but her love, inspiration and influence will live on.
Steve, RJ, Jenna, Cynthia, Jack,
Our hearts are with you all.
Chuck and Marsha
I am so blessed that I got to know Darcy, I am just so sad that it was for such a short time. Makena was so excited to find out on the first day of 3rd grade that Jenna was in her class for another year. But I think I was more excited to see Darcy with her big smile and excitement for another year as room mom and art corps teacher. I just loved going on field trips with her, the best was the Poway Ipai place just a short few miles from school and she got lost, we wer cracking up when she got there.I will miss you Darcy on the next trip,I could always count on a good story and laugh from you.
I am so glad that you touched my life and I had the pleasure to know you, I feel like it was just the beginning for us. We will meet again someday.
Jenna, Steve and R.J.
Your mom and wife was a special lady, one of a kind, the best mom I know. She seemed to create happiness and laughter wherever she went. She loved being a mom, volnteering at school and being involved. I just want you to know that she touched many lives in ways she probably never knew. I think of you all daily and hope that these memories will help as you heal.
We are here for anything you need.
Coleen and Makena McGrath
Dear Steve, RJ and Jenna,
Please know that I’m thinking of you. RJ and Jenna, you don’t know me but during high school, I got to know and admire your mom’s vibrant, creative, open spirit, her loving yet mischievous sense of humor, and, as everyone else has testified to, her clarity and wisdom beyond her years. We were in dance together all four years and choreographed and performed together. I learned a lot from her, and we laughed, often. You are so blessed to be the recipients of her legacy.
I have so many memories, but I’ll share this one because I know it would make Darcy laugh. In our yearbook from senior year, there is a “da broads” photo on the “guys” page. I don’t remember the details and can’t find my yearbook right now. There were four of us…ahem..young women in the picture. Right before the photo was taken, Darcy said, “Okay, everyone look serious.” She waved her hands in front of us, “Look serious!” And so we followed her orders. Of course! Weeks later we got the photo. I managed to come out looking mad, someone else looked scared, the fourth person looked like she was about to giggle, and there was Darcy, looking beautiful and sophisticated, exactly as she had intended. Then she somehow schemed to get the photo in the yearbook on the “guys” page. She had carried yet another vision to fruition. It’s a small moment within a very large life, but it’s indicative of her unique spirit that lives on in all of us.
Steve, my sister, Elizabeth, sends her love as well. When I called to tell her about the accident, she said she was JUST (literally that same day) thinking about you and Darcy.
Lots of love,
Carolyn Clark
Steve,
The last time Chris and I saw you and Darcy at our house was memorialized by the photo I took of the two of you and some of your classmates at the pre-MC reunion gathering. But, we don't need to look at that photo to remember Darcy's beautiful smile and vibrant personality.
Chris and I send our thoughts and best wishes to you, Steve, and your family.
Chris and Padre
I am sure that I'm not alone in wanting to see some of the dolls that Darcy created. Does anyone have any photos of them that can be uploaded to this blog? Please share them if you do.
My thoughts are with you Steve, RJ and Jenna.
Love,
Eva
Steve,
My heart sank when Gary told me the news.
Darcy touched so many lives! I remember Darcy as always confident, friendly, strong, and positive. After reading the comments, I can add to the list: devoted wife, mother, daughter, artist, teacher, and water skiing coach!
She will always be in our hearts.
My family and I send you and your family a BIG hug from Oregon.
Taco, Sumiko, Nicholas and Emi
Dear Steve,
I am so sorry to hear about Darcy's passing. I had the pleasure of setting up for Art Corps and helping out last year when she was in charge. I enjoyed the energy and passion she has for art. She will be missed by many!
There is a song I found comforting after my Mom died Aug. 2006, by Emmylou Harris and Mark Knopfler called, "Love and Happiness" from their album titled "All the Road Running".
Music has been so comforting and allowes me to heal the hurt while I remember the joy. "Red Staggerwing" is a great upbeat song on the same album.
With Love and Happiness to you and your dear children,
Nicole
There is not an hour in the day that I don't think about Darcy, Steve and the kids. I pray about it all - always. I'll see you in a week or so in SD. I love you and will always be here with you and for you.
Your pal,
Kevin Brennan
Darcy was a bright, shinning star in this beautiful world of ours. Even though I hadn't kept in touch with her as I'd liked, I would often look at the doll she created for my 3rd book on doll making. I kept forgetting to call Darcy and ask her if she read the wish I had placed in the fairies wish basket.
Those of us in the fiber art world are going to miss her terribly. Obviously, God felt He needed her more than we did.
God bless all of you in her family.
Patti Culea
steve
Dearest Steve,
I am so sorry to hear about the sudden and tragic loss of our beloved Darcy. As I sit here, reading the posts and seeing the photos, I can see that you and Darcy have created a wonderful life for your family full of love, happiness and adventure. What I remember most about Darcy, from that special time in our lives, is her maturity beyond her years. I last saw Darcy at our re-union and she shared with me the pictures RJ and Jenna with such love and pride. She has given you two beautiful and talented children to continue to love and cherish. You, RJ, and Jenna are in my thoughts and prayers.
Rosa
I don't know exactly what to say, I'm just lost for words and I hope that everyone who has suffered from this event will recover. :)
--
Panserbjorne101 also known as Rynocerator
zootycoon76@gmail.com (Please don't ask. Long story)
Steve,
I am so sorry and deeply saddened to hear about Darcy. In high school, I danced with her in the musical Oklahoma and on the modern dance team. She was a beautiful and talented dancer with her own individual style and charisma. She made every move her own. What I remember most about Darcy was her refreshing personality, her self confidence, ease with people and her beautiful smile. Thank you for sharing her doll collection. Her creations are simply amazing!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Pam (Richardson) Silk
My thoughts and prayers will be with all of you on the 15th as you celebrate Darcy's life. As I look at the pictures I remember that little girl that would come down to Tampa to visit. What a beautiful life, spirit and family!
With love from your cousin in Tampa,
Dee Dee Almeida Pomponio
Hey,
I talked to Steve this week on the phone, and as I am every time I speak to him after a long time, I'm struck again by what a great guy he is. Needless to say, I'm greatly looking forward to seeing him and the kids, as well as many of you, this weekend. It'll be awful for us all to be together without Darcy, but it will be great in a way as well. I'm confident that this is exactly as she would have it. Now if we can only keep certain among us from drinking too much and stealing something. Darcy wouldn't like that. Or actually, she probably would laugh harder than anyone. Until Saturday,
Garrison
Dear Steve, RJ & Jenna,
This is Miss Jeri from Step By Step dance. I hope today's celebration was as special as your wife/Mommy was! You have all been in my thoughts & prayers and will continue to be. Jenna...after reading so much about your mom, I think you must have a lot of her spirit inside you...although I haven't had the pleasure of teaching you personally, you have always been such a delight to watch on the stage during our dance performances. Miss Sioux and I hope your love of dance will continue to shine and I know your Mommy will be looking down on you as you perform this year! God bless all of you!
Steve,
My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. When Lars told me about Darcy's passing, my heart had dropped. It made me realize how precious life is and how important it is for us (me) to never take life for granted. From the comments that everyone has left, I hope you have realized, as I have, just how much Darcy is loved and how much support that you have from family and friends.
May God bless you and your family.
"Hawk"
Mike Kelly
Hi Steve, Jenna and RJ
Needless to say, all four of you have been on my mind for many weeks as I have tried to make sense of all this.
I have been reading beautiful blogs, and poems that rocked my soul. I listened to Kalle's detailed report of Darcy's celebration and I was particularly relieved and glad to hear that you three have so many warm and generous friends nearby. Thank you to Ma Balcomb for introducing Kalle to them so we can feel confident that you are being cared for the way we'd like to if we were closer.
I have learned so much about Darcy from reading everyone's blogs. Considering others' stories and thinking about the handful of times I've danced with Darcy at weddings, laughed with her at parties and watched her from a distance being her tour-de-force self, I have realized that, as Tommy said, Darcy is a teacher. Darcy is a person who, through example, inspires us to be our best. She has given us a precious and enduring gift. Darcy is a model for us all of how to be IN our lives, fully and completely, to love, laugh and create with our whole selves. She has graced so many lives already and will continue to do so with this piece of her that is truly magical.
Jenna, and RJ- I hope that I get the opportunity to meet you after reading so many kind things about you. And Steve, no doubt I will somehow get to see you soon and deposit the tremendous hug that I so badly want to give you.
Take care and know that the East Coast Matsos are here when you want some R&R in the boonies.
Much, much love,
Karen
Hi Steve, Jenna and RJ
Needless to say, all four of you have been on my mind for many weeks as I have tried to make sense of all this.
I have been reading beautiful blogs, and poems that rocked my soul. I listened to Kalle's detailed report of Darcy's celebration and I was particularly relieved and glad to hear that you three have so many warm and generous friends nearby. Thank you to Ma Balcomb for introducing Kalle to them so we can feel confident that you are being cared for the way we'd like to if we were closer.
I have learned so much about Darcy from reading everyone's blogs. Considering others' stories and thinking about the handful of times I've danced with Darcy at weddings, laughed with her at parties and watched her from a distance being her tour-de-force self, I have realized that, as Tommy said, Darcy is a teacher. Darcy is a person who, through example, inspires us to be our best. She has given us a precious and enduring gift. Darcy is a model for us all of how to be IN our lives, fully and completely, to love, laugh and create with our whole selves. She has graced so many lives already and will continue to do so with this piece of her that is truly magical.
Jenna, and RJ- I hope that I get the opportunity to meet you after reading so many kind things about you. And Steve, no doubt I will somehow get to see you soon and deposit the tremendous hug that I so badly want to give you.
Take care and know that the East Coast Matsos are here when you want some R&R in the boonies.
Much, much love,
Karen
Hi Everyone,
Yesterday at the market I was browsing along when out popped a plaque "Live, Laugh, Love", I mmediately thought of Darcy and all of you. The memories are still so vivid, and I'm thankful that the passing of time is wearing down the jagged edges of the pain I feel when the accident comes to mind. I'm amazed at how time passes and life flows along like a river over a stone. It was wonderful to see how close the high school group has stayed and to know that Steve, Jenna, And RJ are loved by so many.
Many hugs!
Heather
Darcy and I barely knew eachother in high school but never passed up the chance to smila and wave hello every day to eachother...Her beautifull smile and electric were as if she was a walking beam of light...She will be ...
Mona Corman class of 85
Dear Steve, Ryan and Jeanna:
I do not know if you remember us from Redondo Beach. My name is Montse and my husband Doug Gray, our kids Andre and Gabriella. Andre and Ryan were best friends during their early years before they started school. We met in the MOMS Club in Redondo Beach and became really good friends then. We went through our first years of Motherhood together and learned a lot, supported each other a lot when we did not have any idea what to do with a crying infant... Remember we did a lot of babysitting for each other and helped each other a lot. Then you guys moved to San Diego and we moved to Orange County and did not see each other in a very long time. We did keep in touch through Christmas Cards and some eventual notes. And Two years ago we moved to China and have been here since then. I just now heard from Michelle Rago the news and I am in shocked. I was just about to write her a note to tell her about our return to California.
I still have few crafty things we made together back in our days, a refrigirator magnet that she made for Andre and Ryan that says: Besst Friends and that I brought with me to China and just few days ago packed it back to California with our other stuff.
I can not imagine how hard this is for you and the kids, and how important she was and will always be for me. From her I learned to take life a little less seriusly (which has been vital to deal with moving to China) and with a laugh and to express my ideas and memories like she did in her beautiful Scrapbooks.
I feel ashamed and very sorry that never truly made the time to go and visit you guys in San Diego, we always talked about it but never did. Now is too late...
I can not even get in the car and give a hug to Ryan now.
But just to let you and the kids know that Darcy touched the life of more people that you may know. I do not think many of us from that piece of her life are aware of this tragedy.
I want to remember her for what she was, fun, creative, vivid, supportive.
Please receive my deepest sympathies and would love to pay you and the kids a visit after we go back to California,
Sincerely,
Montse Gray
It has been over a year since my mom passed away. I just want to thank you all for all the support you have given my family over the past year. We all appreciate it soo much.
Love To All,
Jenna
Two years later... I still have this spot inside of me that aches, not always but sometimes it just sneaks up on me and wham! Clobbers me in the gut. I let it flood me with the hope that each time it will wash away some of the hurt, leaving more space for all the joy Darcy brought to this world. When I see Jenna and RJ I know how that joy is manifested. I'm so thankful for all my family and most of all for everything Darcy gave us during her adventures.
Love to all,
Heather B
Another year has pasted - really? Cn it be true. It's hard for me to believe because I still say "Steve & Darcy" - as if I can't separate the two names. It feels so foreign to leave Darcy's name out of the sentence when talking about Steve, Jenna, and RJ. One thing I've learned over the past year is that there is no 'set' timeline for greiving. It is more like the tide - it ebbs and flows.
I love you all,
Heather B
You've been on my mind this week, passing in and out like a little firefly. Ever present but seemingly surreal. It is surreal that 4 years have passed and that your light was changed on this day back then. Now instead of you shining bigger than life, your children shine their lights brighter and brighter each time I see them. Thank yo so much for your joy and gifts that you've left us in them. It is truly an honor to be part of their lives and their memories.
Darcy, Thank you for the most incredible gift possible. It has now been five years since you flew away and you have occupied such a large part of my heart, but 3 months ago you healed that tear. It was while watching a movie death scene that brought you sharply into focus. I cried as if it was five years ago - never really understanding what was happening. It wasn't until I spoke with a friend that it came clear - I finally was able to process my grief over losing you. This all came just 2 weeks prior to losing my mom. So thank you for allowing me to heal and be strong enough to bear this fresh new gash. I now know that it may take much more time than I think and that it is ok. I can bear this and I will be stronger for it. Love, Heather
Darcy, Thank you for the most incredible gift possible. It has now been five years since you flew away and you have occupied such a large part of my heart, but 3 months ago you healed that tear. It was while watching a movie death scene that brought you sharply into focus. I cried as if it was five years ago - never really understanding what was happening. It wasn't until I spoke with a friend that it came clear - I finally was able to process my grief over losing you. This all came just 2 weeks prior to losing my mom. So thank you for allowing me to heal and be strong enough to bear this fresh new gash. I now know that it may take much more time than I think and that it is ok. I can bear this and I will be stronger for it. Love, Heather
I love everything you started. Watching your creativeness grow and find their own creativeness is such a gift.
Thank you, for your generosity.
Love, Hesther
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